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A Renewed Life, Part 1 – Repentant

A Renewed Life, Part 1 – Repentant

By Amy Ford

Shortly after my conversion from atheist to Christ-follower, I attended a twelve-step program for loved ones of alcoholics and addicts.  My new husband had struggled with addiction for years, and I realized that I needed help to deal with the issues that come with loving an addict.  We followed the same twelve steps as our addict counterparts, but applied them to our own lives.  The first of those steps, as you may know, is to admit that you have a problem.  Once that is accomplished, one can begin to move through a process of changing one’s life, attitude, perspective, and actions.

I love you

I love you

In 2006 Christin Loera had put aside dating and agreed to give one year to the Lord – for Him to show her who He was – to prove Himself.  During the year, she not only saw the redemptive work of the Lord, she began to see His deep love, and who she was in Him.  The following is the first ‘song’ she wrote in November 2006.  This was the time she really began to understand in her heart that the Lord truly loved her, and He could and would be a husband to her.  Let this Love Song to the Lord encourage you.

What does it take to have a Thriving Marriage?

What does it take to have a Thriving Marriage?

by Wayne and Sue Detweiler

Can you imagine being in an apartment with your spouse, knowing that others were watching you fight? John M. Gottman, PH.D. put couples in a “Love Lab” to try to see if he were able to predict divorce.  One hundred thirty couples volunteered to not only to be watched, but video-tapped in the living room and kitchen of an apartment.  They watched and examined how couples related to one another.  The couples who were not doing well in their marriage often began a disagreement with a harsh tone.  Soon the scientists watching would observe what they labeled as “The Four Horsemen.” These four negative styles of behavior are lethal to a marriage and may lead to a chaotic end. Here is the list:

Horseman 1: Criticism. Criticism is more than a complaint. Criticism attacks character and blames the other person, “What is wrong with you?”

Horseman 2: Contempt. Sarcasm and cynicism are common types of contempt.  This disgusted attitude sometimes includes name-calling, mockery, sneering, or making a joke at your spouse’s expense.

Horseman 3: Defensiveness. Defensiveness denies that you have a problem and focuses all the blame on your partner, “I’m not the problem, you are!”

Horseman 4: Stonewalling. This is the last horseman to arrive, but the first one to parade off giving the silent treatment to the spouse.  Stonewalling occurs when one partner just shuts down or tunes out their spouse and the discussion.  They ignore the spouse with a coldness that is felt by everyone involved.

His Needs, Her Needs

His Needs, Her Needs

by Wayne and Sue Detweiler

Although Companionship is a universal need, love, fulfillment and satisfaction in marriage does not just happen. Many marriages begin with great hope and expectation, but come to a screeching halt through an affair or just sheer boredom. What does it take to have a thriving marriage that lasts a life time?

The phrase His Needs, Her Needs(1994) was coined by Willard Harley who listed out the top needs for men and the top needs for women.

The Husband’s Five Most Basic Needs
1. Sexual fulfillment
2. Recreational companionship
3. An attractive spouse
4. Domestic support
5. Admiration

The Wife’s Five Most Basic Needs
1. Affection
2 . Conversation
3. Honesty and openness
4. Financial Support
5. Family Commitment