Made To Crave

Do you crave the things of this world?

1 John 2:15-16 says,  “Do not love this world nor the things it offers you, for when you love the world, you do not have the love of the Father in you. For the world offers only a craving for physical pleasure, a craving for everything we see, and pride in our achievements and possessions. These are not from the Father, but are from this world” (NLT).  As you parent your child, what do they see you craving for?  Are you craving for selfish desires or prideful pursuits. Your child will be able to tell the difference. They will follow your example (for good or for bad).

God uses your call to parent your child to help conform His character in you. He is weeding selfishness of you by giving you an opportunity to be selfless with your daughter or son. Give up the cravings of this world and seek that which truly satisfies, a relationship with Him.



Persuaded By Love

Are you fully persuaded that God loves you?

Romans 8:38-39 says “For I am persuaded that neither death nor life, nor angels nor principalities nor powers, nor things present nor things to come, nor height nor depth, nor any other created thing, shall be able to separate us from the love of God which is in Christ Jesus our Lord” (NKJV). For you to be a good mom or dad, you must first know that God loves you. It must be unshakable in your heart and mind that nothing can separate you from God’s love.

If you are fully convinced, then you will convincingly communicate God’s love to your child.  Your son or daughter will know that the love of God is real as you live it out day by day. The love of God is contagious when it rules and reigns in your heart, mind and home. Let God’s love make a difference in your child’s heart today, by freshly receiving His love — for you.



Quick To Listen

Are you quick to listen to find the heart of your child?

James 1:19-20 says, “Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters: You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry. Human anger does not produce the righteousness God desires” (NLT). If you jump in to speak first, you may never find out the true heart feelings of your child.

Follow the leading of the Holy Spirit as you value the heart of your son or daughter. You may have a preference for how you communicate… but learn to know what is helpful for them.  In any case, your anger will not help your child open up to you. Anger will communicate that you are not safe. Allow God’s love to transform you from the inside out. Let His love flow through you as you truly listen to our child.



Life Lessons

Do you try rescue your children at all costs?

It is hard to see your child go through difficult things, and you may want to help them avoid pain. God’s ways are higher than your ways, and he chooses to let us go through things to build our character. Romans 5:3-4 says, We can rejoice, too, when we run into problems and trials, for we know that they help us develop endurance. And endurance develops strength of character, and character strengthens our confident hope of salvation.”

The next time you are tempted to take a trial away from your child, think again. Is this an opportunity for my child to become more like Jesus?  Will this trial strengthen their character and hope in Christ?  Come into agreement with God’s word, will and ways with your child.  Allow them to go through life lessons that make them more like Him.



Real Love

Do you know what real love looks like?

A child may think that real love is being given whatever you want. But that is childish… Real love is displayed in Proverbs 3:12 when it says, “For the Lord corrects those he loves, just as a father corrects a child in whom he delights” (New Living Translation).

Correction is bringing into proper alignment our relationship with God and others. If you are off balance, out of order, or you just plain missed the mark the most loving thing to do is to show you the right way.  You may be tempted as a parent to let things slide, but that keeps your daughter or son from learning the lesson that God designed for her or him.

However, be careful: A father or mother who corrects harshly is rebuked by Paul in Ephesians 6:4 when he says “Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger by the way you treat them. Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction that comes from the Lord” (NLT). When you discipline, remember you are discipling your child in God’s ways, not your preferences. Your child is only on loan from God. You are stewarding one of the most precious vessels, so be careful to show your daughter or son real love.



Fullness Of Hope

Are you filled with hope?

Romans 5:4-5 says that “…endurance develops strength of character, and character strengthens our confident hope of salvation. And this hope will not lead to disappointment. For we know how dearly God loves us, because he has given us the Holy Spirit to fill our hearts with his love.

Hope is a confident expectation that God is at work in our lives. It never disappoints because it is anchored in God’s unfailing love. I remember having lunch with a family whose daughter was suffering with leukemia.  This little girl amazed me. She talked about heaven as a real place that she was looking forward to. It wasn’t too long after that that this little girl passed away from her family and entered into the presence of Jesus. I can only imagine the pain of this loss, but even death does not destroy our hope in the eternal one that has the power to save us.

Today, anchor your expectation on God Himself, He will fill you with a fullness of hope.



Sue Detweiler interviews Paris Goodyear-Brown

Paris Goodyear-Brown is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and a Registered Play Therapist-Supervisor with 18 years of experience in treating traumatized and attachment disturbed children and families. She is an Adjunct Instructor of Psychiatric Mental Health at Vanderbilt University, guest lecturer for several universities in middle Tennessee, maintains a private practice, and has an international reputation as a dynamic speaker and innovative clinician. With recent trainings in Morocco, Australia, and Sweden, as well as frequent domestic presentations, she is best known for developing clinically sound, played-based interventions that are used to treat a variety of childhood problems. She has received the APT award for Play Therapy Promotion and Education. She is the author of multiple books, chapters and articles related to child therapy. Her newest books include the Handbook of Child Sexual Abuse: Identification, Assessment, and Treatment, Play Therapy with Traumatized Children: A Prescriptive Approach and The Worry Wars: An Anxiety Workbook for Kids and their Helpful Adults. Other Publications can be found on the products page of her website. Paris has been married for 23 years and has three children.


Full Of Joy

Do you think you need to wait till your circumstances are just right to be full of joy?

Romans 5:3 in the Amplified says, “Moreover [let us also be full of joy now!] let us exult and triumph in our troubles and rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that pressure and affliction and hardship produce patient and unswerving endurance.”  I don’t know about you, but this is a challenging word from Scripture. My mind can become so wrapped around my problems that I have trouble seeing God at work in the midst of the difficulty.

When I was having a baby every two years, I didn’t think that there would ever be a time that I wasn’t changing diapers, nursing, or waking up in the middle of the night. But now, rather than having a baby cling to me, I have daughters coming home from college. It was the difficult things that helped build the bond between us.  God uses the “stuff” in our lives to produce character. So don’t wait for something to pass, enjoy the moments of your day to the full!



Soar Like An Eagle

Have you ever found yourself stuck in a pit?

Psalm 103:4-5 in the Amplified says, that God is the One “Who redeems your life from the pit and corruption, Who beautifies, dignifies, and crowns you with loving-kindness and tender mercy; Who satisfies your mouth [your necessity and desire at your personal age and situation] with good so that your youth, renewed, is like the eagle’s [strong, overcoming, soaring]!

Not only does God get you out of the pit, satisfying you with good things, He causes you to soar like an eagle. He makes you strong to overcome. He doesn’t leave you in an undignified position, He dignifies you. He not only cares about your physical needs but your emotional and psychological needs as well.

If you need a fresh start, God is the One who can help you soar.




“Let all that I am praise the Lord; may I never forget the good things he does for me. He forgives all my sins and heals all my diseases” Psalm 103:2-3 NLT.

Do you sometimes forget all of God’s benefits?

God has made a way for you and for me through the shed blood of His son, so that all of your sins can be completely forgiven and your diseases completely healed. He doesn’t withhold good things from you, they are available to you as you praise Him, believe Him, and receive from Him.

As a Christian, you have a pretty awesome “benefits package.”  The key to access your benefits is to remember His goodness. It takes putting faith in God and His word rather than in your symptoms or problems. Nothing will help you get out of the dumps sooner than to praise God for who He is and for what He has done for you.