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Sue Detweiler interviews Lisa Oliver, Part 2

Sue Detweiler interviews Lisa Oliver, Part 2

Lisa OliverLisa Oliver Interview by Sue Detweiler

Lisa Oliver’s heart and home are always full. She has been married to Greg Oliver for 23 years. Together they have two sons, Brad who is 21 and Blake who is 14.  Lisa has served many as a mentor and coach. Being a part of the pastoral team of New Song Christian Fellowship for the past 17 years has given her an opportunity to pour into the next generation.  Lisa has also helped to launch a new ministry to single moms called Family of Hope. You can contact Lisa at loliver@new-song.com.

 

All Things Work For Good

All Things Work For Good

“Meanwhile, the moment we get tired in the waiting, God’s Spirit is right alongside helping us along. If we don’t know how or what to pray, it doesn’t matter. He does our praying in and for us, making prayer out of our wordless sighs, our aching groans. He knows us far better than we know ourselves, knows our pregnant condition, and keeps us present before God. That’s why we can be so sure that every detail in our lives of love for God is worked into something good” Romans 8:26-28 The Message Bible.

Have you ever been tired of waiting.

Did you know that God is the One who is helping you and I along.  When you don’t know what to pray or what to say, turn to Him, he knows.  He will pray through you giving you the words. He knows you better than you know yourself. He is the One that puts plans in your life and then accomplishes them for God.

Really, there is no condemnation, there is no accusation when you walk by God’s Word, His will, and His way. You can trust Him completely.  He cares about every detail of your life and He will bring good in your life. So trust Him to work all things together for good.

 

	

God’s Finishing Power

God’s Finishing Power

Every time you cross my mind, I break out in exclamations of thanks to God. Each exclamation is a trigger to prayer. I find myself praying for you with a glad heart. I am so pleased that you have continued on in this with us, believing and proclaiming God’s Message, from the day you heard it right up to the present. There has never been the slightest doubt in my mind that the God who started this great work in you would keep at it and bring it to a flourishing finish on the very day Christ Jesus appears” Philippians 1:3-6 The Message Bible.

Do you every wonder if you will be able to finish what has been begun in you?

I have good news for you today. Jesus is both the author and the finisher of your faith.  You and I can be confident in the Goodness of God. You don’t have to have even a single doubt in your mind.  God is the One who began a good work in you. He is the One who will complete it.

I know that when God spoke to Wayne and I about adopting our sons, we knew that it was a risk. Our oldest son was already 12 years old when we adopted him and his brother was 8.  They had lived a long time in the orphanage and had experienced many painful things.  Wayne and I needed to put our confidence in God Himself who had called us to adopt. He is the One who is working in our sons life and drawing them to Himself.  He has a plan for each of their lives and He is the one who will fulfill His plan…

Put your hope in God’s finishing power. He is the One who is able to great things through His overcoming power.

 

	

Prayers Of Power

Prayers Of Power

“Make this your common practice: Confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you can live together whole and healed. The prayer of a person living right with God is something powerful to be reckoned with. Elijah, for instance, human just like us, prayed hard that it wouldn’t rain, and it didn’t—not a drop for three and a half years. Then he prayed that it would rain, and it did. The showers came and everything started growing again” James 5:16-17 The Message Bible.

Do you ever feel the pressure to be perfect?

One thing that will protect you from perfectionism is to live by James 5:16 and 17.  You and I are encouraged to confess our faults, slips, false steps, offenses and sins to one another.  As we confess our sins openly, we are healed and restored. As you and I are honest before God and one another, our heartfelt prayers will be heard by God.  He will use the prayers of a righteous man or woman today to be like Elijah in the Old Testament. Even though Elijah was a human being with all the feelings, affections and the constitution of you and I, he prayed in earnest for it not to rain and it didn’t. Then when he did ask for rain, he saw the cloud the size of a man’s hand and He believed that God had answered his prayer.

Don’t try to walk into the promises of God in your own strength. Learn the power of humble heartfelt prayer and confession before God and one another. He will cause you to prayer prayers of power over your homes, families and nations of the earth.

 

	

The Way Maker

The Way Maker

“No temptation has overtaken you except such as is common to man; but God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will also make the way of escape, that you may be able to bear it” 1 Corinthians 10:13 New King James Version.

Have you ever felt like there was no way for you to overcome a trial in your life.

The truth of God’s word is that God Himself makes a way when there is no way. 1 Corinthians 10:13 promises that no temptation or trial to sin, no matter where it comes from, is able to overtake you. It is not beyond your human resistance.  You are able to bear everything that is in front of you.  God is the faithful One. He is faithful to His Word and to His compassionate nature.  You can trust Him to not let you be tempted beyond your ability to endure and overcome.  He is kind and gracious and He will make a way of escape for you when there seems to be no way.  He will help you be capable, strong, and powerful that you are able to overcome patiently.

So if you are facing a difficult trial – just look at your circumstance and say “there is a way to breakthrough!” Then stand in your faith believing that He who promised you is faithful!

 

	

The Power Of Promises

The Power Of Promises

I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me” Philippians 4:13 New King James Version.

Do you find yourself tired, weary and in need of strength?

Not only is God able to strengthen you, He empowers you in His strength.  He makes you ready for anything and equal to anything because He is the One who infuses you with an inner strength that comes directly from Him.  You are able to be sufficient in Christ’s sufficiency.

So if you are feeling a bit insufficient in yourself, that’s good. You don’t want to be self-reliant or you will fail miserably. But if in your own lack you place your bold confidence in God He becomes all you need!  All anxiety, doubt, and even weariness flees as you clothe yourself with God’s strength. His strength is sufficient for each new day!

 

	

Sue Detweiler interviews Lisa Oliver

Sue Detweiler interviews Lisa Oliver

Lisa Oliver interviewed by Sue Detweiler

Lisa Oliver has a heart and home that are always full. She has been married to Greg Oliver for 23 years. Together they have two sons, Brad who is 21 and Blake who is 14.  Lisa has served many as a mentor and coach. Being a part of the pastoral team of New Song Christian Fellowship for the past 17 years has given her an opportunity to pour into the next generation.  Lisa has also helped to launch a new ministry to single moms called Family of Hope. You can contact Lisa at loliver@new-song.com.

 

Strength In Song

Strength In Song

“Surely, God is my salvation; I will trust and not be afraid, The LORD, is my strength and my song; he has become my salvation” Isaiah 12:2.

Are you ever in situations that you find yourself fearful or worried.

Fear is a debilitating emotion. Fear will not only zap your strength it will cause a negative perspective that will keep you from truly trusting in God.

Would you rather meditate on your difficult situation OR to meditate on the greatness of your salvation? Trusting in God will put a song in your heart. Have you ever noticed if you begin to sing that sorrow flees away.  My grandma Beaula was about 4 ft 11 inches tall and not quite that wide. She raised 9 children in the midst of the poverty of the Great depression. But one of the things that her children remember about her is how she would sing when she worked. She seemed to sing even louder when it was a dreary rainy day.

Today, change your focus. Meditate on the greatness of God. Make the Lord Jesus Christ your strength and your song.

 

	

Renewed Strength

Renewed Strength

“But those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint” Isaiah 40:31.

Have you every felt so weary you didn’t know how you were going to get through your day?

I was talking to a mom with two children who is pregnant with her third that is sooo tired…. She had forgotton how tired she felt when she was pregnant. I remember being so tired when I was pregnant that I turned the shower on then laid down on the floor to rest because I was too tired to crawl in the shower.

Isaiah 40:31 says “But those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.” Isaiah is talking about more than just being physically tired, he is talking about a weariness that comes on us when we are going through tough things. He also gives us a key to renewed strength: Hope… And not just any type of hope — but hope anchored in the Lord. This type of God-hope will so renew your strength that you can soar like an eagle and accomplish all that God has called you to.

Today, If you are weary, put your hope in God and soar in His strength.

 

	

Justice, Mercy, And Compassion

Justice, Mercy, And Compassion

 “This is what the Lord Almighty says: ‘Administer true justice; show mercy and compassion to one another” Zechariah 7:9 NIV.

Whenever you have more than one child you will have your children wanting the same thing… Some time it is a toy that they are fighting over… Sometimes it is your time and attention that they want.

I remember each time we added a child, things got more intense. When Hannah was born, Rachel was 4 and Angela was 2. One day at lunch time all three of them were crying for me. I remember this overwhelming feeling that they literally outnumbered me and I did not even have enough hands to take care of all their needs at the same time.

Zechariah 7:9 is being spoken to the people of Israel on a national level, but you are able to apply the principles of this Scripture in the daily life of your home. With your children, administer justice, and show mercy and compassion to them. Teach them to not only love justice but to embrace mercy.

You have a powerful opportunity as a mom or dad to impact the next generation with the truth of God’s word.

 

	

Your Refuge

Your Refuge

“The LORD is a refuge for the oppressed, a stronghold in times of trouble.” Psalm 9:9

Have you ever felt oppressed?

One of the most difficult sounds I know of is the sound of a newborn baby crying when you are feel helpless in bringing him or her comfort. Now that I am an older experienced mom I seem to have “the touch” at being able to calm a crying baby. But when I was first starting out I felt overwhelmed by my first borns unconsolable crying. She had colic and would cry from 7 to 10 every night. We were exhausted.

Knowing that the Lord Himself is a refuge for the oppressed, a stronghold in times of trouble helps you not become overcome by overwhelming feelings.  Just the perspective that you are save in His arms of love causes a peace and a calm to come over you. In times of trouble, you are become the peace that calms the storm. Your trust in God anchors your soul.

Whatever difficulty you are experiencing, make God your refuge.

 

	

The Beginning

The Beginning

“The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge, but fools despise wisdom and discipline.”

Do you want a new beginning?

Proverbs 1:7 says “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge, but fools despise wisdom and discipline.” If things are not going well in your day and life, you might try going back to the beginning.  If you begin your day by “Fearing God”… in other words reverencing God and submitting your day to Him. Asking Him to fill you afresh with His love.  To wash your mind and perspective with your Word….Then you will be set to walk in knowledge and wisdom that comes from God and not yourself.

I don’t know about you, but I need to get my mind and my perspective scrubbed every day.  Really, I first began to know my desperate need to be filled by God on a daily basis when I was a young mom with babies.  The intensity of being needed all the time by a baby or pulled on all day by a toddler caused me to seek harder after God.  No, I was not a natural at being a mom, I needed God to show me and help me with the intimate details of my life… Fearing Him… reverancing Him in my daily life.

Begin with God and you will walk in fresh wisdom and insight that causes you to impact the lives of others.

 

	

Sue Detweiler, Part 2

Sue Detweiler, Part 2

This week on ChristianMomTalk Sue introduces the second part of the book that she has begun to write called Be the Best Mom for your Child: Overcoming  the Obstacle of Your Flesh by the Fruit of God’s Spirit. Every mom struggles with at least one unresolved flesh pattern that obstructs her capacity to effectively parent her child. Her hidden habit of the heart hinders her potential to nurture her child in a safe and loving environment and sometimes makes her feel like she is the worst mom in the world for her child. Every mom is able to overcome the obstacles of her flesh by walking in the fruit of God’s Spirit in order to be who God created her to be and to fulfill her call as the best mom for her child.

Sue shares a brief overview of the second part of the book:

6. Overcoming Criticalness with Goodness.

7. Overcoming Faithlessness with Faithfulness.

8. Overcoming Harshness with Gentleness.

9. Overcoming self-indulgence with self-control.

10. Overcoming moms Raise Overcoming Children.

If you can relate to what Sue is sharing, please take time to write a comment. Remember your story can encourage others.

 

Overcomer

Overcomer

“That’s exactly what Jesus did. He didn’t make it easy for himself by avoiding people’s troubles, but waded right in and helped out. “I took on the troubles of the troubled,” is the way Scripture puts it. Even if it was written in Scripture long ago, you can be sure it’s written for us. God wants the combination of his steady, constant calling and warm, personal counsel in Scripture to come to characterize us, keeping us alert for whatever he will do next. May our dependably steady and warmly personal God develop maturity in you so that you get along with each other as well as Jesus gets along with us all. Then we’ll be a choir—not our voices only, but our very lives singing in harmony in a stunning anthem to the God and Father of our Master Jesus!” Romans 15:3-6 The Message.

Do you tend to avoid problems?

Jesus didn’t avoid problems. He took on the troubles of the troubled. He is steady and constant and calls us to be like Him.  He makes you and I mature through going through difficult things with us.  It is in the tests, that we get our testimonies.

You know, there is probably not a mom out there who has not felt the pressures of daily life. There have probably been moments when you felt like the worst mom in the world. You got angry and frustrated and acted out of that frustration. You slammed a door or you said an unkind word.  Okay, you made mistakes, right?

Well here’s the good news. Jesus Christ died for your sins and your sin nature. He cleanses you and then He makes you like Him.  He uses your imperfections to draw you to Himself.  So, stop fighting and turn desperately and completely to God.  He will help you overcome every problem and in the process He will make you into an overcomer.

 

	

Believe

Believe

“Answer this question: Does the God who lavishly provides you with his own presence, his Holy Spirit, working things in your lives you could never do for yourselves, does he do these things because of your strenuous moral striving or because you trust him to do them in you? Don’t these things happen among you just as they happened with Abraham? He believed God, and that act of belief was turned into a life that was right with God” Galatians 3:5-6 The Message.

Do you tend to strive?

I sometimes feel like I am the queen of strife. It is humbling to admit because really pride is the food of strife. If I have an overly exalted opinion of myself, I think that I can make things happen.

But the word of God is clear in Galatians 3:5-6 that God is the One who provides us with His own presence. It is His Holy Spirit working in us and not ourselves.  You and I need to be more like Abraham. He knew his body was as good as dead and it was impossible for him and Sarah to have children. But he believed God and that act of belief itself made Him right with God. You know, it is impossible to please God without faith. Faith is what moves us into the miraculous.

So, whatever you need, believe God to receive from Him.

 

	

Enjoy The Journey

Enjoy The Journey

“Meanwhile, the moment we get tired in the waiting, God’s Spirit is right alongside helping us along. If we don’t know how or what to pray, it doesn’t matter. He does our praying in and for us, making prayer out of our wordless sighs, our aching groans. He knows us far better than we know ourselves, knows our pregnant condition, and keeps us present before God. That’s why we can be so sure that every detail in our lives of love for God is worked into something good” Romans 8:26-28 The Message.

Do you get tired of waiting?

It’s in these desperate moments when we cry out to God that His Spirit groans through us when we don’t know what to pray or what to to do. The Holy Spirit is praying in and for us. He knows us better than we know ourselves. We can trust Him to work good in each and every detail that we surrender to Him.

So take a deep breath, let out a sigh, let go of any negative emotion and focus on God.  He sees the big picture. If you have been waiting, He knows how to make you enjoy the journey.  Have you ever taken a road trip as a family and there is always at least one person in the car that has their own pace. In our family, it is my husband. He does not want to be hurried on vacation. We don’t have to focus on getting there…. we just need to trust that we are moving ahead and it is going to be good.

How much more with God. He never disappoints. As you wait on God, trust Him to work things for good as you come into agreement with His will.

 

	

Be Content

Be Content

“I don’t have a sense of needing anything personally. I’ve learned by now to be quite content whatever my circumstances. I’m just as happy with little as with much, with much as with little. I’ve found the recipe for being happy whether full or hungry, hands full or hands empty. Whatever I have, wherever I am, I can make it through anything in the One who makes me who I am.” Philippians 4:11-13 The Message. 

Are you content?

If I am honest there are times that I have just wanted all of my kids to “just let me alone…” And I have wanted to escape into something that was comforting to me… a bubble bath, a book, something good to eat.

Here in North America we treat luxuries as our necessities.  I want to be more like Paul, be content in whatever the circumstance. I want to chose to be happy with little or with much. I want to be truly joyful in everything, let God Himself give me the strength.

Wow. That’s transformational… Today, to be content.  Choose to be strong in Him and not in yourself, choose to be joy-filled in whatever state you are in.

 

Trust God In The Details

Trust God In The Details

“Don’t worry over anything whatever; tell God every detail of your needs in earnest and thankful prayer, and the peace of God which transcends human understanding, will keep constant guard over your hearts and minds as they rest in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:6-7.” Philipps. 

 

Do you tend to worry, or trust God with every detail of your life?

Did you know that God cares about every detail of your life.  There is a calm peace that floods your soul when you have a calm conviction that God is present and available every moment of the day. He is always with you and He is always available. He is totally trustworthy.

So, teach your kids to turn to God with every intimate detail, need and concern. I remember when my daughter Angela was about six years old and she had a desire to learn to dance.  We took her need for ballet slippers to God in prayer. Imagine how her faith grew when the next week we found ballet slippers in her size at a garage sale. She began to feel a deep conviction that if she prayed and believed God that He would hear her prayer and answer.

Now she is 20 years old and has just returned home from a summer on missions. She is still listening, praying, and believing God to be intimately involved in the details of her life.  It’s so much fun to live this way: walking and talking and believing God!

 

	

Tremendous Power In Prayer

Tremendous Power In Prayer

“Tremendous power is made available through a good man’s earnest prayer. Do you remember Elijah? He was a man like us but he prayed earnestly that it should not rain. In fact, not a drop fell on the land for three and a half years. Then he prayed again, the heavens gave the rain and the earth sprouted with vegetation as usual.” James 5:16-17 Philipps Version. 

Do you ever feel like your prayers bounce off the ceiling and come back down.

There is tremendous power in prayer, but we need to know how to access this power.  We sometimes forget that people in the Bible were real people. James 5:17 reminds us that Elijah was a man just like us and he prayed that it wouldn’t rain for three and a half years, and it didn’t.  He had the faith, the boldness, the courage to come into agreement with what God desired to do and his prayers availed much.

So, what is it that seems impossible in your life?  How are you praying about it? Do you spend most of your time in “prayer” complaining to God how you feel about it? Or do you take action, listening to God’s heart and will and believing Him for amazing transformation?

Don’t allow disappointment to weigh you down, focus on the goodness and faithfulness of God to carry you through. There is tremendous power in prayer.

 

	

Sue Detweiler

Sue Detweiler

This week on ChristianMomTalk Sue introduces the book that she has begun to write called Be the Best Mom for your Child: Overcoming  the Obstacle of Your Flesh by the Fruit of God’s Spirit. Every mom struggles with at least one unresolved flesh pattern that obstructs her capacity to effectively parent her child. Her hidden habit of the heart hinders her potential to nurture her child in a safe and loving environment and sometimes makes her feel like she is the worst mom in the world for her child. Every mom is able to overcome the obstacles of her flesh by walking in the fruit of God’s Spirit in order to be who God created her to be and to fulfill her call as the best mom for her child.

Sue shares a brief overview of the first part of the book:

1. Overcoming Anger with Love

2. Overcoming Depression with Joy

3. Overcoming Strife with Peace

4. Overcoming Impatience with Patience

5. Overcoming Control with Kindness

If you can relate to what Sue is sharing, please take time to write a comment. Remember your story can encourage others.

 

Choose God’s Presence

Choose God’s Presence

“But the Lord answered her, “Martha, my dear, you are worried and bothered about providing so many things. Only a few things are really needed, perhaps only one. Mary has chosen the best part and you must not tear it away from her!” Luke 10:42 Philipps. 

Do you ever find yourself worrying about all you have to do?

Have you ever noticed how worry adds stress and strife to your life.  When you try to push your kids into doing what they should do, all you get is a sense of frustration on all sides.  When you have too much on your plate you end up not being able to do anything well.

In the Bible there are two sisters, Mary and Martha who took a different approach to life. Martha, the successful homemaker was entertaining Jesus and was worried about many things to make his visit turn out well. Her sister simply sat at His feet, listening to His heart, looking into His eyes, and enjoying His presence.  When Martha complained to Jesus that she needed more help in the kitchen, Jesus affirmed that Mary had chosen the best part.

In your life and home, have you chosen the best part. Are you most concerned about being in the presence of Jesus, transformed and empowered by His word.  Or are you trying to work for Jesus.  Today, changing your approach.  Choose the better part.

 

	

Get Up And Fight

Get Up And Fight

“Beat your plowshares into swords
And your pruning hooks into spears;
Let the weak say, ‘I am strong.’”

Joel 3:10 NKJV.

Do you ever feel too weak to overcome a situation.

There are times as parents that you have to go to war for our kids. It doesn’t mean that you don’t love them. It doesn’t mean that you are not tender and nurturing in their lives. It doesn’t mean that you aren’t compassionate. It does means that there are times to like Joel 3:10 says, beat your plowshares into swords and your pruning hooks into spears and to say to ourselves, I am strong for war. So you set aside your dishes and your laundry and your work assignments and you diligently focus on imparting truth to your child.

Make no mistake the enemy Satan hates you and He hates your kids.  He has an agenda for the life of your kids to try to kill, steal, and destroy them (John 10:10).  But you are a warrior.  You have been anointed and appointed by God to go to war on your knees.  You are strong in God. Yes, your children ultimately have the power to choose whether they will follow God. But you have the power to choose to fight for them in prayer and to instruct them in godliness.

Don’t lay down on the job of being a parent. Get up and fight for your kids.