Helping women realize their God-given calling and purpose as moms

Love Relationship

Love Relationship

How do you foster your relationship with God on a daily basis?

Your love relationship with God is more than just having a “quiet time” where we check off the boxes when you read the right scriptures.  It is a walk that requires focusing all of our faculties—mind, will and emotions—on Him. Then it begins to spill over.  Not only is this a love relationship that you have with God, but a love relationship that you walk out with our children.

Deuteronomy 6:5-8 says: 

You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your strength.  And these words which I command you today shall be in your heart.  You shall talk of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down and when you rise up. 

You are charged by God to talk about Him with your children when you sit in your home, when you drive to soccer practice, when you’re getting ready for bed, and when you are rushing to school the next day.  Your children learn to relate to God by how they first learn to relate to you as their parent.  You represent the very character of God by how you relate to them on a daily basis.

Don’t try to accomplish by performance, it will just wear you out.  Rather, walk with God as you walk with your children. Don’t compartmentalize your life. Be the same every day, consistently and lovingly allowing God to touch your children through you.

 

	

Sue Detweiler interviews Elizabeth Claybaker, Part 2

Sue Detweiler interviews Elizabeth Claybaker, Part 2

Raised in Los Angeles, California, Elizabeth Claybaker graduated high school at the age of 16 and went on to attend a junior college before transferring to UCLA as a Junior. She served as Director of Women’s Issues for UCLA’s student government, and then became President of the Student Body after a highly controversial election.

After graduating from UCLA in 2002, Elizabeth moved to Washington, D.C. where she worked on the presidential campaign, served as Managing Editor for the Presidential Inauguration Committee, and as Deputy Director of USDA’s Faith Based and Community Initiative.

She has worked as a magazine editor, an event producer, and as Director of Community Relations for Mercy Ministries of America’s Corporate Headquarters in Nashville, Tennessee, where she currently resides with her husband Ben and her 3 ½ year-old son, Jackson, who entered their family through the miracle of adoption. Currently, Elizabeth’s husband Ben is running for State Representative for District 53 in Nashville and she is helping his campaign as much as possible. Elizabeth and Ben are also expecting a daughter on October 24th.

Elizabeth has spoken to hundreds of young people all over the world inspiring them to be a leader in their generation and to change the world.

 

The Overflow Of Love

The Overflow Of Love

If you are honest, how is your relationship with God?

Do you sometimes try to earn God’s love by following a checklist of things you should do?  As a Christian, you are called not to just have outward actions that appear to obey Him, but you are to have a heart that loves Him.  And out of your heart of love, obedience follows.

Deuteronomy 6:5-8 says:

You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your strength.  And these words which I command you today shall be in your heart.  You shall talk of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down and when you rise up. 

When my kids where little, I had them memorize these verses.  This passage challenged me as a mom to think about how teaching them the ways of God needed to take place all through the day, not just when we were in church or a family devotions.  The challenge to me as a mom is not to just teach them to obey, by controlling their behavior… I was called to teach them to love God and to trust Him from the heart.

If you are experiencing a block in your relationship with God, here is the good news. He is available to become as close of a friend as you would like. He loves spending time with you and walking with you on the path of life.  As you spend time with Him, walk with Him, talk with Him, you will fall in love with him.  Your love relationship with God will overflow to your kids.

Do you “do life” with God? Or do you compartmentalize your relationship with Him?

 

	

Walk The Walk

Walk The Walk

Are there areas in your life that you want to overcome?

In areas of great struggle, it is not usually a hop-skip-and-a-jump, and then we arrive someplace. We don’t click the heels of our red ruby slippers, and like Dorothy from The Wizard of Oz, magically arrive in the place we want to be. There is a reason that our relationship with God is described as a walk. It is not so much about “getting there”, as much as it is about enjoying the journey and being transformed as we go.

“For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand that we should walk in them” Ephesians 2:10 NKJV.

Your life will begin to flow when you come into agreement with how He has created you. He is the One who has prepared beforehand for you to be who you are. If you are a mom, He has prepared a way for you to walk that you can be the best mom for your kids. You just need to walk into His destiny that He has planned for you. His destiny is not limited and small. It is amazing and rich, but it requires you to walk in faith and obedience. The simple obedience of walking into His call in His way will impact not only your children, but many others in your sphere of influence. As you do this, your struggles will be overcome one step at a time by His grace and your joy will be full.

 

Think New

Think New

Do you ever have trouble thinking in a new way?

You may find that you have a common way that your mind will think. There is a route that your thoughts take and sometimes it is a rut filled with potholes of negative thought patterns. This is how the world thinks.  They get stuck in their minds.

Romans 12:2 says: 

“Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect” NLT.

In order for us to walk in a new way, we need to turn away from our old way of thinking and focus our minds on the word of God.  Meditating on the Word of God will penetrate through the lies that make you feel like you aren’t able to do what God is calling you to do.  Freshly focus on what you think and how you think.  Do your thoughts match what God says in His word?  It is only in thinking about and believing God’s word that you will be able to know His perfect will for you life.  Trust Him to change you from the inside out as you think His thoughts.

 

Get Transformed

Get Transformed

Are people really able to change? If you are saved, did you ever wish there was a button at the back of your brain that you could push to erase every bad thought and memory that you ever had?

The gospel of Jesus Christ is good news to you as a mom. In His power you can let go of familiar patterns of failure and embrace the fruitfulness of being transformed. However, this doesn’t happen automatically. When you get saved there is no reprograming button to push in your brain that washes away all the bad habits you walked in the past.  The transformation of Jesus Christ happens both in the moment of salvation and the life-long moment-by-moment process of walking with Him.

If you feel like you are in bootcamp as a mom – you are. If you notice that you tend to do the same things that your parents did (whether good or bad) – you do. God is using your role as a mom to transform your character into His character. It is at home that your imperfections are magnified. You could throw up your hands and give up, or you can lift up your face to God, repent of your short-comings and expect Him to change you… to transform you

“Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect” Romans 12:2 NLT.

Today, Believe God to transform you and make you more like Him.

 

	

Get Help

Get Help

Have you ever felt overwhelmed and helpless?

When you are holding an innocent baby in your arms who is sleeping peacefully, joy fills your heart. There is nothing you would do to hurt your child.  Your natural-born instinct is to protect your child.  But when this same little baby is crying inconsolably it is a different story.

As I shared before, my firstborn Rachel and I were caught in a house fire and escaped through the protective hand of God.  After the fire, we didn’t have anything from Rachel’s nursery, no crib, no swing, no toys. We were staying in the house of a neighbor who had gone on vacation. The loss of a house in a fire is devastating and disorientating.

Sue Detweiler interviews Elizabeth Claybaker

Sue Detweiler interviews Elizabeth Claybaker

Raised in Los Angeles, California, Elizabeth Claybaker graduated high school at the age of 16 and went on to attend a junior college before transferring to UCLA as a Junior. She served as Director of Women’s Issues for UCLA’s student government, and then became President of the Student Body after a highly controversial election.

After graduating from UCLA in 2002, Elizabeth moved to Washington, D.C. where she worked on the presidential campaign, served as Managing Editor for the Presidential Inauguration Committee, and as Deputy Director of USDA’s Faith Based and Community Initiative.

She has worked as a magazine editor, an event producer, and as Director of Community Relations for Mercy Ministries of America’s Corporate Headquarters in Nashville, Tennessee, where she currently resides with her husband Ben and her 3 ½ year-old son, Jackson, who entered their family through the miracle of adoption. Currently, Elizabeth’s husband Ben is running for State Representative for District 53 in Nashville and she is helping his campaign as much as possible. Elizabeth and Ben are also expecting a daughter on October 24, 2012.

Elizabeth has spoken to hundreds of young people all over the world inspiring them to be a leader in their generation and to change the world.

 

Get Power

Get Power

Have you ever felt like you are powerless to change?

Often you feel powerless to change because you are believing a lie.  A lie keeps you stuck. A lie keeps you isolated. A lie comes from the enemy who is the father of lies. He will attack your character. He will attack your potential. And if you let him, he will steal your destiny.

“I just want to be left alone” you may think as you scoop a big bowl of ice cream and grab a romance novel or magazine and lock the door to your room.  But really, you are just escaping when you do that, you are not embracing life. Time is being stolen from you. And you can’t get time back. It’s not about eating ice cream or reading a romance novel,  it is about having purpose in your life and living life to the fullest.

Get Out Of The Pit

Get Out Of The Pit

Do you ever feel like a terrible mother?

I know every one of us have had bad days and you may have felt like a failure as a mom. When my first two children were young, I felt a lack of order in my house . I felt isolated. Having children was much harder than I thought. I was tired all the time, and I never had a day off. Everyone needed me. My flesh screamed “Just leave me alone!” Of course, when I felt like this, my toddler and baby sensed it and would cling to me.  Life was hard.  I was vulnerable to the attack of the enemy.

I would hear accusations in my mind “you are a terrible mother.” Then I would do something that confirmed that accusation. I felt depressed, isolated, and unable to change my behavior.

But God. God broke into this time in my life and delivered me out of a self-made pit. Psalm 40:2 says “He lifted me up out of the pit of despair, out of the mud and the mire. He set my feet on solid ground and steadied me as I walked along.

If you are in a pit, call out to God and trust Him to deliver you out of the lowest place and to give you a life that is new and filled with hope. When you cry out to God, He will ofter send you others in the body of Christ to help you get out of the pit.  Rather than resisting their help, humble yourself, be honest, and receive help from God and from the community of faith.

 

	

Get Free

Get Free

Have you ever wanted to get free from angry outbursts?

Anger can destroy safety in relationships. Whether anger is expressed in a outward way, or if there is a quiet rage that is communicated with your eyes or the coldness of your touch it can hurt the ones you love.

Anger was a natural reaction for me. In some ways, I was trained to express my anger outwardly. My parents wanted me to be able to express my emotions freely, they did not want me to repress my feelings like they had to in their generation.  So, they invented the “bawl” room. No it was not a “ballroom”, it was a place I could go to “bawl” or cry. Anytime I was frustrated, I could go to the bathroom and scream at the top of my voice.

The problem with this approach was, that later in life, whenever life was difficult, I looked for a place to let it all out, to scream, to shout, to cry, to slam a door. The bad thing is, I also developed a habit of screaming at my small children. Not a great parenting technique.

Get Honest

Get Honest

Have you every struggled with anger ot rage?

Hi, I’m Sue Detweiler with ChristianMomTalk.com.  I didn’t realize that I had trouble controlling my anger until I had a toddler. Most of the time I was calm and gentle with my children, but if something triggered my anger, like spilled juice on a newly mopped floor, or marker on the wall, or anytime they blocked a goal.  If I felt overwhelmed with a circumstance, my anger would flare as quickly as a spark ignites a fire.

Ephesians 4:26-27 says “And ‘don’t sin by letting anger control you.’ Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry, for anger gives a foothold to the devil” (New Living Translation).

When you don’t control anger, it will control you.  When you let loose and scream, shout, pound your fist, or quietly seethe, you are opening up the doorway of your home and inviting the devil to take up residence in your midst. You can feel the atmosphere of your home change. If you make it a regular habit, it gives the devil a foothold. You start to justify your actions and blame everyone around you.

How do you get over anger and rage you may ask? (Because I know there are some who are listening and I am describing something that secretly happens in your house). A first step is to cry out to God and repent of your sin. Have a change of your mind and heart. Humble yourself before God and ask Him to help you.  The other thing that I did is that I would bring my children around me and ask their forgiveness and we would pray together.  I would openly confess it to my husband and ask for his prayer. In other words, I didn’t hide it. I brought it in the light.  I meditated on Scripture and I believed God that He had filled me with the fruit of His spirit that included love, patience, and self-control.

If you have an anger issue, get honest and get free.

 

	

Sue Detweiler interviews Toni Kline

Sue Detweiler interviews Toni Kline

Toni Kline is a mother to many. She has been married to Kevin for 27 years and God called them to a parent adult children. They do not have any biological children, but they  answered a mandate from the Lord to pour into the next generation. They have helped to “parent” adult kids that need love and care. Toni serves as an associate pastor at New Song Christian Fellowship and pastors the young adult ministry of 18 to 30 year olds. If you would like to contact Toni you can get ahold of her at www.new-song.com.

 

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Your Fullness

Your Fullness

“Everything of God gets expressed in him, so you can see and hear him clearly. You don’t need a telescope, a microscope, or a horoscope to realize the fullness of Christ, and the emptiness of the universe without him. When you come to him, that fullness comes together for you, too. His power extends over everything” Colossians 2:9-10 The Message.

Do you ever feel an emptiness?

When I was home full time with my first 4 children I went through a season where I struggled with my identity. I was doing what God called me to, but I felt Isolated and empty. When you feel a void in life, it may be that Jesus is drawing you deeper. Everything becomes clear when you see Jesus clearly, when you realize the fullness of Christ and the emptiness of the universe without him. When you come to Him, freely and totally the power of the universe makes sense … and His plan for you takes on clear meaning.

Come to Jesus and He will make sense of your life.

 

	

Your Faith

Your Faith

“I am telling you this so no one will deceive you with well-crafted arguments. 5 For though I am far away from you, my heart is with you. And I rejoice that you are living as you should and that your faith in Christ is strong.” Colossians 2:4,5 New Living Translation.

Have you every been deceived?

Well-crafted arguments can overtake your thoughts until you believe a lie. Lie’s and deception will erode your relationship with Christ. The negative thought patterns of lies will lead to negative emotions. These negative emotions will fill your home and spill over to negatively impact your kids.  Today, let your faith in Christ be strong. Take captive every thought that tries to take your faith hostage. You can take the thought captive and walk in obedience in Christ. Stand strong in your faith today.

 

	

Your Lord

Your Lord

“My counsel for you is simple and straightforward: Just go ahead with what you’ve been given. You received Christ Jesus, the Master; now live for him. You’re deeply rooted in him. You’re well constructed upon him. You know your way around the faith. Now do what you’ve been taught. School’s out; quit studying the subject and start living it! And let your living spill over into thanksgiving” Colossians 2:6-7 The Message.

Who truly is the Lord of your life?

Your walk with Christ is simple and straightforward when you truly let Him lead you and guide you rather than you preferences.  If you build your life on Him, for Him and around Him, everything makes sense. If you try to add extra things to it like the food you crave, the money you want, your kids behavior, your husbands job… any exterior reality will always fail to lead or guide you into truth. You will never be satisfied by a false lover. Your lord and your life must be Jesus Himself. Start living with Jesus leading you, guiding you, showing you every step of the way how to live. Let him be master of your destiny.

 

	

Your Treasure

Your Treasure

“I want you woven into a tapestry of love, in touch with everything there is to know of God. Then you will have minds confident and at rest, focused on Christ, God’s great mystery. All the richest treasures of wisdom and knowledge are embedded in that mystery and nowhere else. And we’ve been shown the mystery! I’m telling you this because I don’t want anyone leading you off on some wild-goose chase, after other so-called mysteries, or “the Secret.”  Colossians 2:2-4 The Message

What is your treasure?

Is your treasure found in the things that you taste, see or do? Do you treasure the material things of life or the prestige of position?  God has woven our lives like a tapestry of love, leading us into more intimate knowledge of walking with God and truly knowing Him.  The riches of our lives are the wisdom and the knowledges found in Jesus alone.

Passionately pursue the hidden treasure of Jesus Christ. Then your mind will be confident and at rest

 

	

Your Encouragment with Sue Detweiler

Your Encouragment with Sue Detweiler

“My goal is that they may be encouraged in heart and united in love, so that they may have the full riches of complete understanding, in order that they may know the mystery of God, namely, Christ” Colossians 2:2

What is your goal in life?

Is your goal to have a lot of stuff or to perform well at everything you do?  What type of riches are you looking for? If your goal is based on the material world, you will spend a lot of time discouraged. If you want to be the soccer mom of the year or Martha Stewart you will always fall short. Your heart will be frustrated and your perspective clouded by the distractions of life.  Your encouragement is found when you are united in love with Christ. Then you will have full understanding of the riches that are available only in the mystery of Christ.

Today, Let Christ be your encouragement.

 

	

Your Energy

Your Energy

“We proclaim him, admonishing and teaching everyone with all wisdom, so that we may present everyone perfect in Christ.  To this end I labor, struggling with all his energy, which so powerfully works in me.” 

Do you sometimes run out of energy by the end of the day?

Do you rely on your own human ability throughout your day, or do you allow divine energy to flow through you as you labor by His leading.  Too often, if I am honest, I run out of steam because I am being self-sufficient rather that desperately dependent. Face it. you can’t be perfect by yourself. But in Christ He will perfect you and so that even when things aren’t going according to plan, you are able to move forward in his strength.

Be infused with His divine energy.

 

	

Your Commission

Your Commission

“Now I rejoice in what was suffered for you, and I fill up in my flesh what is still lacking in regard to Christ’s afflictions for the sake of his body, which is the church. I have become its servant by the commission God gave me to present to you the word of God in its fullness-” Colossians 1:24-25 NIV.

What is your commission?

If you are like many, you don’t think about your commission, you just think about your task.  But let’s be real.  What meaning is there in the task of changing a diaper if it is not connected to the commission of being a mom or a caretaker of a child.  I encourage you to become a servant to God, receiving your commission to be a mom. Don’t do it in a half-hearted way, receive the grace that God has given you to present the word of God in its fullness as you live life in your home.

Receive your commission. He has a mission for you as a mom.

 

	

Sue Detweiler interviews Gwen Elliott

Sue Detweiler interviews Gwen Elliott

Gwen Elliott an amazing wife and mother of three. She and her husband Brian have a heart to live fully for God and to raise their children in His word, His will and His way.  After having 2 children, they were surprised with a 3rd child. Being a busy mother of 3 she also serves in ministry at her local church of New Song Christian Fellowship. You can contact Gwen at gwenelliott3@gmail.com.

 

Your Freedom

Your Freedom

“Once you were alienated from God and were enemies in your minds because of your evil behavior.  But now He has reconciled you by Christ’s physical body through death to present you holy in his sight, without blemish and free from accusation” Colossians 1:21-22 NIV.

Do you find yourself going through your day hearing accusations in your mind?

Accusations are from the enemy to alienate you from God and others. These accusations can sound like your own thoughts where you tell yourself, “I’m a terrible mom”, “I hate being home with my kids”, “I can’t do anything right.” The battle in your mind wages when you don’t know and apply the truth that Jesus died to set you free.  He made you holy. You are free from all accusation.

Receive your Freedom in Christ.